Most people would believe that we all should have empathy for others and if we are decent folks then we certainly do. And yet, let me explain some of my theories of the Empathy Trap. You see, sometimes folks will take advantage of our good nature and empathy and use it against us to get more for them selves.
So how do you know when someone really deserves your empathy and when they are using manipulation techniques to get to your psyche to take advantage of you$%: Often if I feel someone is using such tactics, I generally shut it out, although I do feel it. It bothers me, but I shut it out now. I feel as if people complain and make themselves sick, tired, upset for no reason.
Now then I personally have every right to be upset, angry, distraught after what I have been through in my own life, but I refuse too and think other people often are such wimps for not rising up and instead blaming trivial things and using them as excuses. Even worse when these folks enjoin the emotions of others and play the victim card for an empathy strategy.
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Winning takes sacrifice, so if someone is not willing to put in what it takes, then I cannot feel too sorry for them because I did it. That is to say I have got going when the going got tough, more times then I care to remember. If you dwell on other people's embellished problems or excuses then are you really helping them or simply bringing yourself down in the process$%:
So, there is a good and bad side to empathy. That is important to consider, no matter what side you fall on. Now then I hope you will consider this topic of interest and perhaps allow it to propel thought into 2007.
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